Archive for October, 2008

The Problem of Pain – Part 1

Wednesday, October 29th, 2008
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After the death of his wife, Joyce Davidman, C. S. Lewis was devastated. Perhaps because he was not looking for the relationship to begin with. Perhaps because he had allowed Joyce the gift of fully taking his heart…and he held nothing back. But in allowing himself to love so completely, he opened himself up to pain unimaginable. It is this depth of pain that leads many to seek a higher being, and others to reject the notion completely.

Here is how C. S. Lewis introduces his readers to the fundamental conclusions of many:

C.S. Lewis, “The Problem of Pain”

“Not many years ago when I was an atheist, if anyone had asked me, “Why do you not believe in God?” my reply would have run something like this: “Look a the universe we live in. By far the greatest part of it consists of empty space, completely dark and unimaginably cold. The bodies which move in this space are so few and so small in comparison to the space itself that even if every one of them were known to be crowded as full as it could hold with perfectly happy creatures, it would still be difficult to believe that life and happiness were more than a by-product to the power that made the universe. As it is, however, the scientists think it likely that very few of the suns of space — perhaps none of them except our own — have any planets and in our own system it is improbable that any planets except the Earth sustains life. And Earth herself existed without life for millions of years and my exist for millions more when life has left her. And what is it like while it lasts? It is so arranged that all the forms of it can live only by preying upon one another. In the lower forms this process entails only death, but in the higher there appears a new quality called consciousness which enables it to be attended with pain. The creatures cause pain by being born, and live by inflicting pain, and in pain they mostly die. In the most complex of all the creatures, Man, yet another quality appears, which we call reason, whereby he is enabled to foresee his own pain which henceforth is preceeded with acute mental suffering, and to foresee his own death while keenly desiring permanence. It also enables men by a hundred ingenious contrivances to inflict a great deal more pain than they otherwise could have done on one another and on the irrational creatures. This power they have exploited to the full. Their history is largely a record of crime, war, disease, and terror, with just sufficient happiness interposed to give them, while it lasts, an agonized apprehension of losing it, and, when it is lost, the poignant misery of remembering. Every now and then they improve their condition a little and what we call a civilization appears. But all civilizations pass away and, even while they remain, inflict peculiar sufferings of their own probably sufficient to out weigh what alleviations they may have brought to the normal pains of man. That our own civilization has done so, no one will dispute; that it will pass away like all its predecessors is surely probable. Even if it should not, what then? The race is doomed. Every race that comes into being in any part of the universe is doomed; for the universe, they tell us, is running down, and will sometime be a uniform infinity of homogeneous matter at a low temperature. All stories will come to nothing in the end to have been a transitory and senseless contortion upon the idiotic face of infinite matter. If you ask me to believe that this is the work of a benevolent and omnipotent spirit, I reply that all the evidence points in the opposite direction. Either there is no spirit behind the universe, or else a spirit indifferent to good and evil or else and evil spirit”

What do you think?

Access to Excess

Wednesday, October 15th, 2008
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This week Maureen McCormick, better know to you and me as “Marcia Brady” released her book “Here’s the Story”. In her new book McCormick describes the chasm between her public persona as Marcia Brady and her private hell as a child actor in Hollywood. She describes it this way in her book “As a teenager, I had no idea that few people are everything they present to the outside world, yet there I was, hiding the reality of my life behind the unreal perfection of Marcia Brady. No one suspected the fear that gnawed at me even as I lent my voice to the chorus of Bradys singing, `It’s a Sunshine Day.” After the Brady Bunch ended its 5 year run in 1974 McCormick began living a escapist lifestyle filled with drugs and failed relationships. “My life after Marcia Brady was a whirlwind of experimentation and searching that evolved into a grim spiral of avoidance, denial and self-destruction”.

In the mid-90′s I was doing technology contract work in the Chicago area. At the same time Danny Bonaduce (AKA Danny Partridge) had an afternoon radio show. He normally did not discuss the details of his life as a child star in the late 60′s and early 70′s but on this particular day he was sharing a bit about his past. The one thing that he attributed to his downfall (Danny was also heavily involved in drugs and seeking the fame/recognition that he knew on The Partridge Family) was what he called “Access to Excess”. It seemed quite insightful that he realized the thing that lead to his derailment was that he could gain access to nearly anything that a young man thought he wanted. Sex, drugs, rock & roll, etc. are attractive and as a teenager Danny thought these were things to be pursued and to be indulged in.

Strange that most of us think we simply want “more”. We are not, generally, clear on why we want more. Worse we don’t ask how “more” of something that is inherently unsatisfying now would be better or magically fill the emptiness that we feel right now with what we have. But that is the great deception of the Mirage. The illusion that things or people or escapism are capable of filling the emptiness that we feel is, in fact, merely vapor. If we were logical about it (which of course we often are not) we could say that the purchases (for example) of the past, while entertaining, were not able to create a lasting or sustained satisfaction. If that were the case we would not need future purchases. Buying toys are escaping with our specific “fun fix” only brings temporary satisfaction and does not lead to living a 1010 life. To be sure, having fun and playing with toys as a PART of living a full life. However, if your life is defined by those things, if they are all you have, then a full life will be quite elusive.

Blaise Pascal said “What else does this craving, and this helplessness, proclaim but that there was once in a man a true happiness, of which all that now remains is the empty print and trace? This he tries in vain to fill with everything around him, seeking in things that are not there the help he cannot find in those that are, though none can help, since this infinite abyss can be filled only with an infinite and immutable object; in other words by God himself” — “Pensees” by Blaise Pascal

Access to excess simply leads to a clearer realization that those objects upon which we indulge are incapable of filling the void. In addition, the consequences of our excesses are often much greater than we the price we are willing to pay. For example, a teenager taking his first drink is probably not envisioning a future of living on the street and bumming for beer money. And while most young people’s first beer does not lead to that conclusion, the deep dive into alcohol as the ultimate numbing agent can lead to unanticipated and undesired conclusions.

Striving just for more could get you less.

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Common Courtesy Isn’t

Monday, October 13th, 2008
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So I am on a flight today from Colorado Springs to Dallas and the guy acouple of seats behind me is coughing up a lung. Now, having a cough is one thing, but didn’t our Mom always tell us to at least cover your mouth?

At the risk of sounding like a germ-a-phobe, I have gotten sick far too many times after traveling around this amazing planet of ours. As if it weren’t bad enough that the air on this plane is only pressurized to 8000 feet (an unfortunate hit to my already fatigued brainpower) the fact that they continue to recyrculate the air for the entire trip means this guys germs get multiple chances to seek me out.

But this is just one example in my life today of a lack of one of the simplest and yet most powerful social glues – courtesy. Whether it is the security agent checking IDs and rudely handing a couples tickets back them with the amplified phrase ‘one at a time folks’ or the guy banging you with his bag on the way by with out so much as a ‘pardon me’ or the kid working the cash register at the fast food place who simply tells you the total and does not ask for your payment (retailers at one point in time appreciated your business).

No, if you want to stand out in a self-absorbed world today all you have to do is be a rebel and hold open a door, give up your seat or simply say please. Respecting others is not complicated nor costly. On the contrary, it is simple, inexpensive and a powerful way for you to show others that you genuinely care. What type of world would we live in if people genuinely respected one another and demonstrated that by showing a little kindness. Perhaps it will start with you.

I’ve got you beat!

Friday, October 10th, 2008
by David Dahlin | No Comments »

So, Jim you have been on this planet about 40 years. I’ve got you beat by about 10–nearly 50 years on this planet and I’m still trying to figure this gig out. Sometimes I just love life and feel like I have the answers to the meaning of the universe and other times I feel lost and alone and like it is all a bit pointless. I do think we are made to really live…to really live life…to live like we mean it! But the older (oh, I mean more seasoned–like a good steak or a fine wine) I get, the more I realize that the journey on this planet is complex, often difficult, but wonderful no matter what. I want to live my life full of wonder. That’s part of what 1010 is for me…living a life full of wonder…awake to possibilities, to new beginnings and to the wisdom of the ages. Central to what little wisdom I have gained is that we are whole people–mind, body and spirit. And that any attempt to fully separate one from the other is false. So I am on a journey of holistic health, what the Jews used to call “shalom”–peace with self, peace with God, peace with my fellow travelers, peace with the environment…health and wholeness and abundance. So, let’s get searching and exploring and having some fun on the journey. I’m in!

Welcome to 1010 Living

Friday, October 10th, 2008
by Jim Finwick | No Comments »

I’ve been on this planet for just over 40 years and that is not a very long time (if you’re a mountain). But it is long enough to start to get a feel for life. It seems that many people are looking for the same thing; some call it fulfillment, some call it enlightenment and some call it happiness. But whatever label people want to put on it, it is really a matter of experiencing a full life. Jesus talked about this when he was on the earth and we read about in John chapter ten verse ten.

“…I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.” – Jesus (John 10:10b)

So what does it mean to live a full life? How does one do that with the cares and concerns of the world today? Is it possible to live a full life? What would have to change in your world in order for you to have a full life?

Well, this site is dedicated to answering just such questions. We’re going to look into the art and science of living life to the full. What does it mean to be fully alive physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and socially? What are the prerequisites to living a full life? What are the practical implications of living a full life? What tools and techniques are available to help you with just such a life? And what would change around you if you could say, every day, that your life was a 10 on a scale of 1 to 10?

If you’re looking for original thought then I’m afraid you’ve come to the wrong place. If you are looking for something religious then you’ve come to the wrong place. If you are looking for a quick fix then you’ve come to the wrong place. If you’re looking for the accumulation of the best and most practical thinking around living a full life then you will find that here. I would be the last one to tell you that if you that I have figured it all out…I’m a fellow traveler, just as you are. I’m also somebody who does not want to get to the end of my life and discover that I had not truly lived.

Henry David Thoreau said “I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.” [Walden]

Let’s learn together. Let’s journey together. Let’s go in search of a full life together.

Jim Finwick
Colorado Springs, Colorado, 10/10/2008

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