There is nothing more precious (and worth defending) than the tenderness of a little girl’s heart.
Last night I attended an amazing event. I was the understudy for the emcee of “A Daughter’s Heart”, which is a Father-Daughter dinner dance that was celebrating it’s 13th year. 700 attendees on Friday night and 900 on Saturday night.
In our married life, my wife Gloria and I have never been able to have children, and we are both quite OK with that. However, last night I must admit that I had a profound tinge of jealousy of seeing hundreds of fathers and daughters expressing their appreciation and love for one another. As a few of the daughters shared publicly a lasting memory of spending time with their Dads, it was clear the meaningful and lasting impact that a father can have on his Daughter. What was amazing was that the lasting memories were often not some huge event. In fact, it was simple things like baseball games, long walks, learning to ski or just sitting together by a fire. And yet these simple events were the ones that were recalled when asked to share “one memory of your Dad”.
But my heart was really touched when the dancing started. I must admit, most guys are just plain clumsy and awkward, especially when they are doing something for the first time. If we gave out a prize for the dorkiest Dad, I bet nearly every girl would think their Dad should get the award. But here is the thing…they were doing it. I mean they were all out on that dance floor trying to follow the dance instruction (not very well I might add) but reveling in the fact that they got to dance with the pretties girl at the ball. And for that, they just created another memory that their daughter will always cherish.
So, at the risk of overstepping my place, let me offer just a few suggestions.
FATHERS: This precious, pure heart has been entrusted to you for such a short period. Take the time to take the time. I know that sometimes you feel awkward and (especially as your daughter gets older) you don’t always know what to say or do. This beautiful young woman really wants your time and attention. And when you have the chance to dance with her, dance like it was your favorite thing. She doesn’t care how you look, but she does care that you love her enough to look a little silly in order to just be with her. At least once a day (AT LEAST) you should tell her that you love her and that you are proud of her. You cannot say these words too often.
DAUGHTERS: Your Daddy would take a bullet for you (literally). I know that he does not always relate to you in a way meets your needs. Sometimes he is dorky and often he just doesn’t understand what you are thinking or feeling. But there is nothing that he would not do for you. Try to give him a break. In fact, if you can help him to know what you need from him, all the better. Every day you should tell him that you love him and that you are proud of him. Don’t miss an opportunity to let him know what he means to you. Although he may not always express it well, he loves you, would do anything for you and wants what is best for you. You will always be his little girl.
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